Set the DVR – Sara is a guest on Live with Kelly & Michael tomorrow.
Don’t Get Used to Being Negative.
We all have problems to deal with in life, but sometimes we get so used to the struggle that it starts to feel normal. “It’s more comfortable to think, ‘Woe is me’ rather than, ‘I’m going to get back on my feet!’ or ‘I’m going to empower myself!’” says Ramirez. Break a negative pattern and remind yourself that conflict isn’t necessary. If you learn to stop looking for things to go wrong, you might just find that they no longer do.
Career Disappointment Is Going to Happen.
“Sometimes we are lucky enough to get feedback telling us exactly what we need to work on. Work on it, get better, and get more prepared. If nobody is telling you why you didn’t get the part or the job, then you have the option to frame it like this: ‘It wasn’t for me.’”
35 and Single? So What?
There is no magic number when it comes to meeting the right person. “I got married when I was 36. I’m 38 now,” says Ramirez.
Learn to Be Comfortable Being Alone.
“When I met my husband I was going through a really interesting transition where I stopped myself from thinking, ‘Will I meet someone?’ every time I went out. Once I learned how to be comfortable alone, a lot of the old habits I had in relationships in my 20s dissolved.”
Be Yourself In Relationships, Especially in the Beginning.
“I didn’t play any games when I met my husband, and I’m proud of that. If I wanted to text him back right away, I did (but if I didn’t have time or didn’t feel comfortable, then I wouldn’t). When you allow yourself to be seen, that’s what works in my experience. I’d rather know that [someone] doesn’t want to be with the real me right away versus seven years down the line. It’s not worth trying to keep a man if you’re pretending to be someone else.”